The No. 1 cause of divorce may not be what you think

NOTE: This article was originally published on Kevin A. Thompson's blog.

There is a problem that crushes many marriages. This article explains this problem and gives you five tips for not doing so.

I am convinced that the first cause of divorce is not adultery, financial problems or irreconcilable difference. These are mostly symptoms of deeper problems.

Although these problems may be real, I think there is a bigger problem.

The most common problem I see with married couples is the lack of intentional investment in their marriage.

Although the first fair hearing - someone has lost interest, so losing their intent or losing intent to lose interest - from anything so there is a key idea:

We can influence our feelings by intentionally investing in our marriage

As said before, our affections often grow toward our investments. Wherever we put our time, money and energy also ends up receiving our passion, interest and affection.

7 important times to give full attention to your spouse

Your spouse needs your attention, especially in key moments in life.

Marriage requires your full attention. Although you need to attend many other important elements of life, nothing is more important than your marriage. There are cases in your life when you need to give full attention to your spouse. Here are some of the most important moments.

1. When you wake up in the morning

Let him or her know right off the bat at the beginning of your day that he is vitally important to you. Start with a kiss and a, "I'm the luckiest person in the world to be able to wake up next to you." Then make the bed together. We didn't say make out in the bed together, though there will be times for that. When you help each other make the bed it's a beginning statement that you're working together to make your home a pleasant place to be. The bedroom is a great place to start. It shows you care.

Your husband has 5 basic needs. Are you meeting them?

Fulfillment of your husband's needs does not mean that you are inferior to him. That means you love him and want to make him happy. Do you ?

The key to successful marriage is altruism. If your needs for women can be set above your own, they are on the right path. Having the desire to meet the needs of her husband, she does not underestimate the small role of a woman in any way. If you really love your spouse, then you want to make him happy, and these five things usually make a happy man - so simple.

The needs of each man are different. However, according to Willard F. Harley Jr., most people have the same basic needs. Although each person is unique, these needs are what most men choose on average.

How to reset your wife when she`s falling apart

For those days when you can not take it anymore.

You can find them in all the shops, offices, playgrounds and pistes in the local elementary school.

Women experience the tears of their children, who serve daily with little or no gratitude, juggling labor and parenting and sleepless nights and endless guilt, who love their hard-working husbands who continually take care of all their needs besides theirs. These are the women who quietly lead the world.

And, if you are a woman reading this article, "they" probably mean you.

I know the look in your eyes. I know what to do and I never feel enough. I know how to wake up and ask how you can do it all day. Know that you are not alone.

Husbands, we need you. We know we can not walk alone in the way of life. When it falls, we need to pick us up and help us in the legs. We need you to wipe our tears and so embrace us, it's hard to breathe. We need you to comfort us when life becomes too hard to bear.

The MOST overlooked trait of who you want to marry - Amberlee Lovell

There are a few things we don't think about when we're dating, but having someone with this trait will make a world of difference.

My grandpa died. I found out as I rolled over to turn off my alarm. My screen showed an email from my uncle. "Dad passed to the other side at 5:25 a.m." And a wave of sadness hit me.

These are the moments you don't think about when you're falling in love.

While you're snuggling into your boyfriend's shoulder during your impromptu dance on his front lawn, you don't think about how he'll respond when your parent dies. Or when you lose a job. Or when any other inevitable heartbreak of life comes your way - because they will come.

Women! Stop hating your bodies - by Heather Hale

It has degenerated seriously. You are beautiful and perfect - just as God created you.

Every autumn we have family portraits of a professional photographer. This is a great way to document the growth of boys, and this year we record only eight weeks after birth. I was so excited to show a new addition to our family, and I thought it was great to be a few pounds more than usual.

Then I took pictures. I was not prepared to attack from the negative emotions I felt while I was watching my body on these pictures. All I saw was mistakes, belly, thighs, body of my face. He created a year of unresolved body problems. The photos captured a happy moment in my family's life, but I felt miserable.

“It’s hard for a star to find true love” – Kenny Blaq

Comedian Kenny Blaq has in an interview with Punch said not much about his life has changed since attaining stardom.

Kenny Blaq, real name Otolorin Kehinde, said he still visits local canteens to eat amala when he’s craving a meal, still takes okada when commuting. He said:

5 Things Your Wife Wishes You Knew But Might Never Tell You

What do you know about your wife as a mother to stay home?

You can be a recipient of domestic meals, wear clean clothes that  she washed yesterday. Doubled and eat the food that was dropping out of the dishwasher. You can split the bed with her, raise the kids with her, even keep a neat house. You love and appreciate it, and maybe you should check it regularly.

But even if you do all of that, here are five things your wife wishes you knew about the work of the home.

1. It’s actual work.

Sure, she might not get out of her pajamas until noon, but she is still working. Work is part of being created in the image of God (Gen. 1:27). Work existed long before compensation, so whether she is paid or not, she is still working.

The hours look different than for those who hold more traditional jobs, but that doesn’t diminish what she is doing. Work is God’s means of loving the world through the labors of our hands. She is doing that good work by cleaning the floors, making the home a safe and welcoming place, and hosting weary friends. She is loving the world in the grocery shopping, the meal planning, and even the training of children.

She is working, and it is good.

10 Things Every Wife Should be Doing for Her Husband

Successful marriage can be difficult. If you were together for thirty days or thirty years, you probably figured it out. As a woman, you had expectations that began long before your man fell to his knees.

He hoped both life as a couple would be forever. Maybe your dreams have come, or maybe they are not. But I think if you're something like you, you've realized what happened after you've gone through the passage to be somewhere between.

Have learned something in the last twenty-six years since said "I do" is that there are ups and downs in marriage, just as it is in life. When your relationship with your husband is in full swing and you want him to be this way, ask yourself, "What can I do for him?" When their relationship fails, and you desperately need to gain ground, ask yourself, "What can I do to get him started temporarily on this issue, and that back up with action can only strengthen your marriage list?. which I suggest should be a springboard.

Iceberg Slim talks about his relationship with actress Juliet Ibrahim - See what he said

Singer Iceberg Slim says he is not upset if people think his girlfriend, actress Juliet Ibrahim, is older or richer than him. In an interview with Punch.

Iceberg said their opinion did not bother. See what he said below..

HOW TO KEEP THE LADY YOU ARE DATING

Do you love your girl and you don't want another man to snatch her from you? Then do the following things:

1. Give her much of attention: If you give her attention, she will not seek for attention elsewhere. Chat with her online via social media or else another man will.

2. Give her listening ears whenever she is speaking to you: Avoid pressing your phone or reading a newspaper when your girl is talking to you.

Prince Harry & Meghan Markle set to Wed on May 19, 2018

Official Twitter account Kensington Palace announced that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle will be married on May 19, 2018.

The couple who announced their engagement in November will have their wedding at the Chapel of St. Jura at Windsor Castle.

See the following message below:

5 ways to unintentionally destroy your husband and kill your marriage | A lady story

You may be surprised to realize that you are doing these five destructive things that end your relationship with your spouse.

When I married, I was stunned by the sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, much of the well-being and happiness of another person greatly influences my choice and action.

Women, we need to pay attention to how we care about our husbands and weddings. Do not let your little things ruin what gives you the greatest happiness in your life.

Here are some ways of destroying a husband without knowing and killing your marriage (as a warning, please understand that this article is also for men):

5 Top Reasons Why You Can not Find A Man (Which Your Friends Are Too Far To Tell You)

Before I begin, let me preface this by saying that I know not all women need (or want) a man. This Hub is for those who do. As someone who married her childhood sweetheart and is still married, these are the answers I give (or wish I could) to my girlfriends who ask why they’re having such a hard time finding a good man to love and share life with.

The List

It’s no Secret that visualizing your goals helps you obtain them (see what I did there?), but there’s such a thing as too much of a good thing. Chances are, whenever a beautiful, successful, smart, sweet, funny woman who checks of all the boxes except for married and single asks why she can’t find a man to appreciate all these wonderful qualities in her, it’s because of The List. There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want, especially in a relationship. In fact, you need to have some idea of what you want so you’ll recognize it when you find it and not settle for anything else.

14 Reasons why some women still need a man | A man Story

Why do some women like to have an awesome guy in their life instead of a face?

Women have traveled for long, but still have more travel distances

I had one of the greatest earthquakes in my life when my 68-year-old mother began a serious relationship only 13 months after my father was suddenly dying. For decades she complained to her father - calling him hate, negative and controlling (what he was). I was astonished and astonished that I abandoned my new freedom and entered into a second partnership with someone who had the same destructive qualities. But she did it and stayed there 15 years later.

Although I'm separated from my mother, Samantha, my 29-year-old freezer, is still a woman who can not live without a man. He recently left his 10-year-old husband to another man. When that relationship deteriorated, she immediately asked her friends to host a new one. She started playing at the bars late at night to find a replacement. Being without a man, even for a short time, became completely useless and miserable.

Many of us know women like my mom and Samantha who like to crawl with life than anyone else. They frustrate us and make us angry about their dependence on men at a time when it does not seem necessary. However, looking at the story, it is not surprising that many women still feel compelled to have a man on their side for safety, social status and financial security. Although the slogan "You've Come A Long Way Baby" is true in many ways, we still have a greater distance to go. After all, the women's movement is only 50 years old. Here are the 14 reasons why some women still need a man:

Feminists Were Often Portrayed in the Media as Strident and Humorless

Our History Leads Us to Desire (and Need) a Man

1. Historically, women have been defined by their husbands. During World War II, they were recruited to work in factories as men were forced to vacate those jobs for military service. Before that time, most stayed at home—their identities tied to their roles as wives and mothers. They didn’t have the same opportunities as men to pursue higher education and higher-paying careers so they were financially dependent on their spouses. Most women of my mother’s generation never considered jobs in medicine, engineering, and science.

10 ugly things that horrible husbands do with their women

Make sure you are protected from those 10 bad habits that could ruin your marriage.

All right, you're not a terrific husband. But there are very terrible things that you certainly do not want to fit into your marriage. Your wife deserves better than her husband with any of these 10 bad habits.

1. Critical

Please watch yourself and don’t get caught in the trap of criticizing your wife. Choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don’t like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it.

8 Things Men ONLY Do With The Woman They Love

Do guess twice if your man love you. Read these signs safely to be sure.

Men and women show that they are very worried. If a man is willing to publicly display his love for a woman, he is not empty. For a man, it is extremely vulnerable to show and express exactly what he feels so great.

There are at least 8 things that a man will only do for a woman he loves sincerely.

1. He listens

If you ever think that men sometimes behave like children, you’re not entirely wrong. Most men only concentrate on things they are passionate about. If they love you, your voice is music to their ears and all you have to do is say something that really matters and they are hooked.

The man who really loves you will not only hear you but will pay attention to your words. You will notice that he follows your advice and respects your thoughts.

If you answer yes to these 16 questions, you are marrying the WRONG man | Story of a Lady

If any of them relates to your relationship, treat them as the main red and FINISH flags.

I was a month after my wedding when I canceled my engagement, so trust me when I say I know what pain is the end of a long-term relationship. But, dear friend, if the relationship is wrong, the end will now be the best choice you can make.

If you answer yes to these questions or your lower stomach says something is wrong, do not marry that man. These red flags will help you to find out if you are in the wrong relationship.

10 things you should never tell your spouse in a fight

Fighting with your spouse is difficult, but some things never need to be said, no matter how angry you are.

As you increase communication with your spouse, there will be arguments. You might want to go back over and over again. Luckily, humor can keep the argument from exploding outside the control. Otherwise, misunderstandings and struggles often occur.

Now, for those wondering, there is no "How to properly discuss dolls" or manual, "Arguments 101". Nor is there a perfect relationship in which misunderstandings never occur. Despite the inevitability of the argument, some things should never be said. Here is a list of 10 of them.

4 emphasizes that you are married, but you do not really have a husband

You can be married, but that does not mean you actually have a husband.

You can be a bride, but that does not mean that you have a husband at home. After you walk down the passage, you probably thought you were at the beginning of your happiness forever. But your fiancé may have forgotten that marriage is just the beginning of marriage.

Here are four signs that you are married, but you do not have a man.

1. He doesn’t come home

If the man you married doesn’t come home at night, you don’t really have a husband. You can’t have a relationship with someone who isn’t present. He could stay out late with friends most nights of the week. Or he could go out of town without letting you know. He might even be, quite innocently, visiting family. And letting you know his plans beforehand is only half the issue. If he thinks being gone most of the time is OK, he doesn’t understand what it means to be married.