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The Wedding Day Is a Single Day. a Marriage Lasts a Lifetime, and It Is This Difference That Some Couples Don't Realize Until the Ceremony Is Over. Marriage Is Hard and Tiring and Frustrating and Takes a Lot Of Work to Live Happily Ever After.
Your wedding day is one of the most exciting, tiring and busy days of your life. It's a day you can't wait to plan for months or, in some cases, years. In the cinema is the day when all the bride's dreams come true, and although the movie usually ends there, it gives the viewer the idea that the bride and groom lived happily ever after. The truth, however, is not so fascinating.
The first unpleasant surprise may come when the groom wakes up a few days after the wedding and realizes that he no longer has clean clothes. The new wife could look around the kitchen and realize it was dirty and the pantry shelves empty. Two men participate in a polite discussion about the task of doing dishes and doing laundry. Kindred arguments can turn into disagreements, which can turn into a complete altercation, screaming and shaking hands in an optional way. Suddenly the new couple will realize that marriage does not mean that they have a perfect relationship now.
The wedding day is one day. Marriage lasts a lifetime, and this difference is distinguished by some couples before the ceremony is over. Marriage is difficult, arduous and frustrating and it takes a lot of work to live a happy life. It’s a tete-a-tete for those who are about to get married, those who have just gotten married, and even those who have been married for some time and still have a sense of habit (so generally, all couples). Here are the top five challenges couples face.
1. The in-laws
This was the biggest surprise for me. Before marrying my sweetheart, I thought his mom was a kind, generous person who took a healthy interest in her son's life. After we were married, I realized that her daily calls weren't going to stop. And, I found that her way of running a household was vastly different from mine. Over the years, this has led to a number of disagreements and tense situations because much as I would like to give her a piece of my mind, I have to try to maintain a good relationship with her for the sake of my husband and my children. It is a guarantee that one or the other of you will find dealing with the in-laws to be challenging at times. If you are aware that this can be a trial ahead of time, you'll be better able to deal with it when the time comes.
2. Financial decisions
You might have discussed your financial philosophies before marriage and think you're on the same page, but the day will come when your husband comes home with a purchase that makes you shake your head in wonderment. "What can he have been thinking? We can't afford that,"� you'll think in exasperation. Keep in mind that there might be times when he will think the same thing of your purchasing decisions. The key to this trial is to have open communication and to set reasonable goals for your spending habits.
3. Trading traditions
My parents' first big fight of their marriage came four months after their wedding day. It wasn't over money or chores or in-laws, it was over what kind of lights they wanted to put on their Christmas tree. My dad was interested in the new, tiny, twinkling white lights. My mom wanted to go with the traditional big, solid, colorful lights. My mom laughs about it now, but she said at the time it was a real problem for them. Coming up with family traditions is a challenge for some couples as you both come from different backgrounds with traditions that are equally important to each of you. Deciding what traditions you'll incorporate into your lives and which will get the boot will require calm discussion and compromise.
4. Child-rearing
The entrance of a child into any couple's life signals enormous changes into the marriage relationship. Children are needy, emotional and time-consuming. Rearing them takes a lot out of a husband and wife. On top of the sleepless nights and hormonal changes, the two of you might find you don't agree on what the best ways are to raise your child. This is another discussion that is best undertaken prior to the arrival of the new baby, but can be done any time during the course of child-rearing. Your philosophies or those of your spouse might change as the child grows and you learn more about parenting.
5. Career decisions
Another big trial in the marriage relationship has to do with bread-winning. If you both have careers, the challenge will be the perception of whose job is more important. If just one of you has a job, the one who stays at home will need to find some other means of fulfillment. Jobs sometimes require relocation, which can put stress on the relationship and disrupt children's lives. Every career decision must be approached with care and consideration, including taking into account the wants and needs of every family member.
Don't get me wrong, marriage might be challenging, but it is also beautiful and rewarding and has given me the happiest days of my life. But to make it last, you must be aware of the trials you might face so you can prepare to conquer them.
About Katie Nielsen
Katie Nielsen received her bachelor's in English with an emphasis in technical writing. She has taught English and is a published writer.
Credit | Source: Familytoday
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